I don’t know if you’re supposed to, but like, we do. My parents always did it and had us do it and now it’d feel very weird to just see an unfolded prayer mat when no one’s using it. I remember asking my mom why and I think it had something to do with the devil, like a symbolic something something…?
Are you supposed to fold up a corner of the prayer mat when you are done? :o
I don’t know if you’re supposed to, but like, we do. My parents always did it and had us do it and now it’d feel very weird to just see an unfolded prayer mat when no one’s using it. I remember asking my mom why and I think it had something to do with the devil, like a symbolic something something…?
OMG, please don’t feel like you have to explain yourself to me :( I get it; it’s admittedly a little different, but my grandparents were arranged too. But I mean, I didn’t mean to make you anxious or anything? I just liked the hair story xD I’m glad your cousin and her husband get along though :D my grandparents stayed married until death; my grandfather passed away two weeks after my grandmother. He always did seem to adore her.
Oh, no, I didn’t mean you when I implied some people only focus on the negative parts, just in general. Your ask was lovely! I just wanted to elaborate on how it happened.
OMG, please don’t feel like you have to explain yourself to me :( I get it; it’s admittedly a little different, but my grandparents were arranged too. But I mean, I didn’t mean to make you anxious or anything? I just liked the hair story xD I’m glad your cousin and her husband get along though :D my grandparents stayed married until death; my grandfather passed away two weeks after my grandmother. He always did seem to adore her.
Oh, no, I didn’t mean you when I implied some people only focus on the negative parts, just in general. Your ask was lovely! I just wanted to elaborate on how it happened.
I really like your story about your hijabi cousin XD
Thanks! She told the story when all us girls were gathered to get another cousin ready for one her wedding ceremonies (desi weddings tend to have at least four) and we all howled. The guy she married is usually all serious and stern and imagining him reacting like that was so hilarious. 😀
Incidentally, that set of cousins all grew up and live in NYC, and it was all completely consensual. Their parents were the first gen immigrants and they offered their kids the chance to pick their own spouses (some of the cousins did take them up on that) but the cousin in the story was pretty serious herself, one of the older responsible kids who–well, she was kind of the Jane Bennet type, actually, that’s a good reference point, but they both did meet and agree first, of course. Knowing the kind of people they were made it all the better. 🙂 They have kids now and adore each other and them.
Even though I get why the things that make the news do make the news, it’s not all forced marriages and honor killings, a lot of it is sweet and funny in its own, unique way.
I really like your story about your hijabi cousin XD
Thanks! She told the story when all us girls were gathered to get another cousin ready for one her wedding ceremonies (desi weddings tend to have at least four) and we all howled. The guy she married is usually all serious and stern and imagining him reacting like that was so hilarious. 😀
Incidentally, that set of cousins all grew up and live in NYC, and it was all completely consensual. Their parents were the first gen immigrants and they offered their kids the chance to pick their own spouses (some of the cousins did take them up on that) but the cousin in the story was pretty serious herself, one of the older responsible kids who–well, she was kind of the Jane Bennet type, actually, that’s a good reference point, but they both did meet and agree first, of course. Knowing the kind of people they were made it all the better. 🙂 They have kids now and adore each other and them.
Even though I get why the things that make the news do make the news, it’s not all forced marriages and honor killings, a lot of it is sweet and funny in its own, unique way.
re: Ackley, lol I’ll await your commentary. But I think the best way to summarize is that Brown women pretty much got treated as an afterthought the whole episode.
Oh, I see. Yeah, I guessed it’d be something like that. I wasn’t at home when it was airing, so I was catching up on the tag on twitter and it seems to me that there was a lot of Jordan and Chloe and…I don’t care about them. They’re among my least favorite characters on the show, actually. They could get rid of them and Steve and the show wouldn’t be worse off. That’s why I didn’t really hurry to watch.
re: Ackley, lol I’ll await your commentary. But I think the best way to summarize is that Brown women pretty much got treated as an afterthought the whole episode.
Oh, I see. Yeah, I guessed it’d be something like that. I wasn’t at home when it was airing, so I was catching up on the tag on twitter and it seems to me that there was a lot of Jordan and Chloe and…I don’t care about them. They’re among my least favorite characters on the show, actually. They could get rid of them and Steve and the show wouldn’t be worse off. That’s why I didn’t really hurry to watch.
Are you just pretending that the finale of Ackley Bridge never happened? Cuz I know I am.
Heh, no, believe it or not I still just haven’t watched it. Why, did something bad happen?
Are you just pretending that the finale of Ackley Bridge never happened? Cuz I know I am.
Heh, no, believe it or not I still just haven’t watched it. Why, did something bad happen?