Oh come now, anon, she would have been a strained kind of polite before awkwardly extricating herself from the convo and then sharing a look with the other wives. 😛
But really, she probably would have been nice in an unknowingly patronizing way, I think she really did want to be as good a hostess and supporter of the whole astronaut fam as she could be. Her priorities have just shifted now, she’s still about the people, not so much the rules and etiquette.