this is literally my worst nightmare. This is why I’m terrified to become a parent. This is why, despite others telling my not to work so a damn hard, I tried and tried and tried for the whole past year to repair my relationship with my partner’s mother and stepfather. They finally disowned us only about ten days ago, and I’m SCARED. I was attributing it to my anxiety disorder, but now that I read this article, I know that my fear is valid. This is happening right now – and it could happen to any of my beautiful trans siblings.
See, this is why marriage equality isn’t the most important issue. This is why we’ve been shouting and stomping our feet and never. shutting. up. It’s because children are being stripped of their parents for no other reason than THEIR PARENTS ARE HATEFUL BIGOTS.
Daniel and Cindy are young parents whose world has been turned upside down because Daniel is transgender. He transitioned over a decade ago when he was 19, and few people know that he is transgender. When Daniel and Cindy decided to have children, they told Cindy’s parents that Daniel is transgender because they were conceiving in vitro with donated sperm.
And, I suppose, they must also have trusted that her parents would continue to accept their son-in-law.
This was a mistake.
Cindy gave birth to healthy twins 2 ½ years ago, and Daniel and Cindy and the twins have been very happy – except for one problem.
Cindy’s parents make rude comments about Daniel being transgender, and they do it in front of the twins.
Requests for them to stop are met with mirth.
Daniel and Cindy put up with this behavior for a long while, but as the twins are getting older, they worry that the negative comments are harmful, and they don’t want to be forced to try and explain concepts to their young children that are beyond their ability or need to understand – in vitro, transgender.
Daniel and Cindy made the difficult decision that the grandparents are no longer welcome in their lives.
The grandparents got angry and sued for custody of the children.
The twins have two loving parents.
Child Protective Services have never been called; there have been no police reports of abuse; neither parent has a criminal record.
Last week, a court removed the twins from their home and gave custody to the grandparents.
Their father is transgender.
Daniel and Cindy are working with a lawyer to try and get their children back.
Will they get them back? Who knows? What we do know that the children have pulled out of their home and are living with two people who demean and ridicule their father.
Names have been changed, as the story hasn’t hit the news yet – offering the family privacy until they choose to take it public. more at the link above.